Through recent conversations with the girls, (you know who you are), we determined that there is a strategy to remaining friends with your ex-ex-boyfriends. If you’re like me, and you have more than one ex, then this theory may just work for you.
Whoever your second last ex-boyfriend is, so not the very last person you dated but the one who came before him – bring him on! You can be friends with this guy. Not best friends, but definitely cordial when your mutual group of friends decides to hangout. You might even enjoy speaking with them, I mean it.
This is because enough time has passed that you have gained a mutual respect for him, all attraction (or sexual tension) has diminished, and you want to see the other person happy in work, friends, family, or even, love (with someone who is NOT you). Also, you will not be affected by the ex-ex-boyfriends treatment of you if it’s plainly polite and not heart-felt because you have forgotten the hurt that came LONG before that.
Time does heal all. However, it heals only if you have dated another guy – who you have since then broken up with – and are now either happily single or dating a NEW and improved man.
Are you following?
With that said, whether you are experiencing a fun-single period or in love with your current boyfriend, won’t change the fact that you CANNOT be friends with your immediate – last – ex-boyfriend. Don’t even think about it. Why bring all of that torture and misunderstanding back into your life, because let’s be honest, he won’t be a friend to you until he has dated someone else. Even then, it’s icky to be friends with your ex, and I don’t care what anyone else has to say about it.
Leave the immediate ex in the past. Not enough time has passed, and there may still be a manipulative intention behind those “happy amends.” Plainly said, this re-formed relation will be phoney, so take those mutual friends with you – if you so choose. Just don’t call your immediate ex-boyfriend unless you want to look for trouble – not just with yourself – but with your current boyfriend too!
This is my advice, so you can take it or leave it on the page.