With my littlest cousin, Emily, going off to University this week – it dawned on me: you never stay friends with the people you bond with right off the bat. At least for me that was the case during the first month of my Undergraduate Degree at Carleton and again at the beginning of my Master of Arts Degree.
It’s funny how the people you initially feel the most comfortable with, and get good vibes from, aren’t always the ones who last in your life. In both cases – returning back to school – I immediately bonded with some individuals and chose to call them my NEW friends. Most often we felt comfortable because we were from the same place, Toronto. Then, a month or two had passed, and their true colours came out. Unfortunately, I realized I didn’t want to share these new experiences with them at all, or call them my friends. Whether it was personality conflicts, or because they were heavy into drugs, it didn’t matter. For whatever reason, I no longer felt comfortable.
Where are those “NEW friends” now? Who knows. I’m still Facebook friends with them, but that doesn’t mean anything today with all these social media landscapes floating around.
Despite the rejection of those “NEW (too immediate) friends”, I just returned from Ottawa this September long weekend. There I attended my Carleton University Resident Roommate’s wedding, so it’s clear that you do come out of these experiences with life long friends. The day I moved into residence I was panicky, scared, yet exhilarated and constantly wondering who I would be sharing my tiny TINY resident room with. It was Sarah, the fabulous bride to the left.
In the end I finished off my advice to Emily by saying that you’ll meet friends that you learn to distance yourself from, they’re usually the first ones you meet, but others will become your best friends. These people, the best friends that you build strong relationships with throughout your University life, will remain with you until the end.
Good luck on your first day of school (to everyone that is returning or going to University for the first time), and keep an open mind!