I am an “I”

There are two kinds of people in this world, and they are the “I’s” and the “We’s”. Auntie Kyna, Leslie, and I came to the conclusion one night at a pub over beer while watching a live band… that there are only I’s or We’s in this world. All of us are clearly “I’s” as we were out without husbands, and boyfriends. Unfazed by what they were doing, or where they could be… enjoying each others presence and appreciating one another for being “I’s”.

“We’s” often think that they are I’s, but this is not the case. They are delusional and jealous of those of us who are “I” people. “I’s” are the kind of people who enjoy their own space, and make the most of their alone time whether that be in a productive or relaxing way. “I’s” do not fret about their boyfriends (or husbands) because they are confident with themselves enough to not have to worry about what they are doing when they are not with their other half. “I’s” are forever and always in touch with their friends, and they often know what their close friends are doing even when without them… because “I’s” are simply fascinated in what the human beings they love are doing. It impresses “I’s” when other “I’s” share their stories of travel, or life lessons because they too are striving to do the same.

“We’s” also have the tendency to stop themselves from venturing on life adventures unless someone else, mainly their significant other, comes with them. Whether that be travelling, or going to a bar/club… they will not, and most often cannot do it alone. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with “we’s,” we definitely can’t all be an “I”. They are nurturing and also infatuated with humanity, but in a more selective way, and just with their lover.

“I’s” love having independence, and making decisions that consider those they love, but ultimately will benefit themselves positively. “I’s” can be in relationships, and still remain “I’s”. That is where “I’s” and “We’s” differ. “I’s” do not neglect friends when in a relationship, but remain available and willing to spend their free time doing activities that will make memories they can share.

Whichever you tend to be, do not be ashamed… but don’t think you are an “I” either! When you are clearly a “we”.

I am sure AK, and Les can contribute… and agree.

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3 Responses to I am an “I”

  1. Cammie says:

    hah, i liked this!
    some days i feel like a WE, and others are very strongly marked by an I approach.

  2. Red says:

    I do believe that ‘we’ all start off as an ‘I’ but it is in our nature to to find commonplace with our fellow man…wheather it be in relationships (plutonic or not) or be in the activities that ‘we’ participate in. It is ‘our’ goal and in ‘our’ nature to form relationships and to seek people out, otherwise ‘we’ would become a very lonely ‘I.’ Not to say that individuality isnt important, i just belive tha like most things a balance is required… if you are too much of an I you then become ‘that person’ a person who becomes soo self obsessed that we lose track of what it feels to belong to a group or to rely on someone else (the things that make us human). If you are the type of person to loose your individuality too quickly and become too much of a ‘We’ then you chance to lose your identity, and you will forever be at the mercy of the group. Awesome article, and i think you make great points that stimulate thought! looking firward to following your blog!

    • Dee says:

      I have been pondering over what my response should consist of for the last couple of days… on my drive home from Ottawa while at a pit-stop I heard the following Nickelback tune:


      (If the link doesn’t work it’s Nickelback’s “Gotta Be Somebody” – And it seems to me that you – like Nickelback – are campaigning for the “We’s”)

      I understand that you took my blog to another level, and i appreciate/admire that. However, if we were to go beyond the point i’m focusing on, which is being an “I” or “We” when it comes to a relationship, then i too agree that it is both human nature to categorize themselves in/with a group, and it is more beneficial for an individual to be part of a group. It is like J.J.Rousseau’s theory of the Social Contract that everyone is forced to read in school.

      I personally love being in a group setting, and amongst my good friends when going out or even just staying in to watch a movie, but the difference is that an “I” is able to remain individualistic in some way (such as going out to eat alone, or shop alone) where as someone who is too much of a “we” – like you said – loses themselves completely amongst a crowd/in a relationship. A true “I” is not self-obsessed but able to get to know other individuals and appreciate their lives/personalities.

      I do agree that whether someone is an “I” or a “we” you cannot just be an extreme of those types, and it is more beneficial if you can maintain a balance of both to a certain extent. I also think that it is more sustainable for a person to be an “I” if they have a strong sense of “we” in another aspect in their life. I personally have a close relationship with my family and in that aspect of my life i’m a huge “we,” however I am able to go out into the world with “I” tendencies because of that “we” base. Some people may replace the lack of “we” relationships they have with that of a significant other, and in those cases feel strongly in maintaining that “we” connection, and so they begin to lack in the other “we” parts of their – for example with their friends. Maybe I was a little too harsh when speaking of the “we’s” because i do admire some of them…

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