Ex-Boyfriends // Staying Friends with Your Ex

Through recent conversations with the girls, (you know who you are), we determined that there is a strategy to remaining friends with your ex-ex-boyfriends. If you’re like me, and you have more than one ex, then this theory may just work for you.

DSC_0985Whoever your second last ex-boyfriend is, so not the very last person you dated but the one who came before him – bring him on! You can be friends with this guy. Not best friends, but definitely cordial when your mutual group of friends decides to hangout. You might even enjoy speaking with them, I mean it.

DSC_0982This is because enough time has passed that you have gained a mutual respect for him, all attraction (or sexual tension) has diminished, and you want to see the other person happy in work, friends, family, or even, love (with someone who is NOT you). Also, you will not be affected by the ex-ex-boyfriends treatment of you if it’s plainly polite and not heart-felt because you have forgotten the hurt that came LONG before that.

Time does heal all. However, it heals only if you have dated another guy – who you have since then broken up with – and are now either happily single or dating a NEW and improved man.

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With that said, whether you are experiencing a fun-single period or in love with your current boyfriend, won’t change the fact that you CANNOT be friends with your immediate – last – ex-boyfriend. Don’t even think about it. Why bring all of that torture and misunderstanding back into your life, because let’s be honest, he won’t be a friend to you until he has dated someone else. Even then, it’s icky to be friends with your ex, and I don’t care what anyone else has to say about it.

Leave the immediate ex in the past. Not enough time has passed, and there may still be a manipulative intention behind those “happy amends.” Plainly said, this re-formed relation will be phoney, so take those mutual friends with you – if you so choose. Just don’t call your immediate ex-boyfriend unless you want to look for trouble – not just with yourself – but with your current boyfriend too!

This is my advice, so you can take it or leave it on the page. If you haven’t noticed, all the photos are of happy couples (who are dolled up by Beauty by Nicole)! Just trying to be humorous on a Wednesday.

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“It is not down in any map; true places never are.”// Moby Dick

We are about 1/3rd into the novel and there has been no sign of the White Whale, known by Captain Ahab as, Moby Dick.

During our Book Club For Two Skype session last night, and with our Conscious Reasonings of the first quarter of the novel behind us (click here for a recap), we delved into a discussion about Chapter 32 “Cetology” to Chapter 41 “Moby Dick.” 

Believe me, it came as a surprise how dry  this section (about 50 pages) was. Somewhere, without either of us knowing, the novel turned into a play with stage directions and attributed dialogues. Ishmael’s narrative is in and out at this point, with Captain Ahab and other first mates taking over the descriptive reigns. The novel is quite confusing at times, and we agreed on having to re-read certain paragraphs out of sheer confusion.

The whole purpose for their voyage was brought to light, and Captain Ahab’s vengeance is quite overwhelming. We continued to ask ourselves, what are the chances of a ubiquitous whale? One white whale, otherwise named Moby Dick, is capable of time travel – making him a supernatural whale – according to the text. Over a few laughs at how this could be possible, Meagan delcared that there very might well be, well, more than one white whale…dun dun dun. 

The catalogue of whales that Herman Melville calls “Cetology,” aka the Science of Whales, reminded me of Homer’s The Iliad and his Catalogue of Ships. It was quite interesting to read about all the different kinds of whales, and what attributes constitute a whale versus a large fish. 

With that said, I loved the chapter when Starbuck (one of the Captains main men) brings light to the entire situation by saying, “my soul is more than matched: she’s overmanned – and by a madman!” Moby Dick (the white whale) is not worth a lot of money, so to assist one man – Captain Ahab – in seeking revenge by killing Moby, is completely irrational. Though, it is exciting.

Yet, it is like Starbuck proclaims, you cannot go against the Captain and his ship once you’re aboard it. This would be traitorous and rebellious. So, Starbuck takes his orders as they come.

Meagan and I fell in love with the character Queequeg, and we would love to see more of him, rather than just his eating habits. Amidst all of our talk about the novel, Meagan and I realized that we are both irrationally afraid of the water (or ocean). Maybe she is more scared than I am, and apparently, she believes that you just don’t know what’s out there (sharks). 

Neither of us being strong swimmers, I don’t think we would survive in a battle against any white whale, let alone Moby Dick. We are able to tread water, and float, but if we were forced to survive – I just don’t think we would.

 

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Guilty Pleasure // Assorted Card Sets

On this Good Friday morning (literally, it’s Good Friday in the Roman Catholic religion), I’m thinking about what makes me happy.

photo 2Paper inspiration is something that I take seriously. Maybe it is human nature to be intellectually stimulated by bright colours, but I love when you walk into a store – like The Papery – and see rows on rows of blank card paper available in every colour.

Now that The Papery is no longer located down the street from my apartment in the Glebe (Ottawa), Indigo is a great substitute. Unlike the aforementioned local store, this conglomerate feeds into a corporation. Yet, I still love to browse and believe me it is just as tempting.

For the last year, every time I checked out the journals, cards, notepads, stationary, I’ve been mesmerized by the Kate Spade table. Something about her gold and pink combos, along with the simple, sophisticated, and playful designs continues to draw me into her world of wonder.

Finally, as a treat to myself I splurged. I couldn’t help it. With all the birthdays coming up – mother’s day included – I wanted cards that would bring some fun into my friends lives!

Processed with VSCOcam with f2 presetOftentimes, I make cards myself, and I still find creative happiness in doing that. This confession is a complete exposure of my guilty pleasure. I’ve come up with some pretty fantastic ideas too! Once, for a friend whose emoticons refuse to work on her  iPhone, and another who just doesn’t have an iPhone at all, I made EMOTICON cards. Of course I chose the perfect ones for each of them, since no two cards should be the same. (I’m aware that it looks as though a kindergartener made it – haha!)

I don’t even know why it’s so much fun to make my own cards. Besides the fact that it’s cheaper, there is just no real reason for it. With the tendency to listen to music as I work – that could be something.

photo 1For those of you with friends who love sending you snail mail – like I do, you definitely know what I’m talking about.

For more do it yourself fun, or crafts in general, try reading: “DIY Studded Shorts.” That experiment that combined fabric and studs was one I’ll never forget.

 

 

 

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Jays Home Opener // Reyes Sits

IMG_5943I have fallen in love with how shortstop Jose Reyes plays on and off the field. Not only does he have something I like to call, “field swagger,” but he has a true love of the game. Always smiling. He’s also at the top of the batting list for a reason for…he’s a reliable – get on base – kinda hitter. Not to mention how excellent of a sprinter he is…

Unfortunately, he hasn’t gotten much play time this past week due to an injury. A tightness in his left hamstring to be exact. Not to fret though, my friends, he’s sitting on the bench supporting his team with a smile from ear to ear. That’s a true team player and one that I admire.

IMG_5945I know from past experience how tough it can be to take a seat as a result of your body desperately needing to heal. You support your team and watch from the side lines, but often it’s hard to keep your head in the game strategically.

IMG_5942Andrew’s dad got us tickets to the game today, and not just any tickets, but the greatest tickets of all. I’m happy to announce that we were lucky enough to be seated behind the plate! With that said, I’ve also been DYING to see the NY Yankees.

Though sitting in the nose bleeds is also extremely fun – it’s a different kind of excitement. Heckling the outfielders is a blast, and I love organizing a group of my friends to attend.

IMG_5947Nothing beats a Sunday at the field (behind home plate) with beer in hand – next to my Nugget – though. I just can’t wait for Reyes to take his rightful spot on field next to Brett Lawrie – a duo that is truly unstoppable.

They almost made a comeback today in those last two innings, but alas, they lost to the Yankees 6 to 4. We shall see how the Jays pan out this year, but let me tell you, they’re looking good!

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Business Strategies // Skirts Versus Pants

You wouldn’t normally think that how you dress contributes to your personal business strategy, but it was brought to my attention that it does.

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Maybe we should take a note from Selena Gomez at We Day in California (2014).

Recently, while discussing upcoming trade shows and events that Simply Hired, Inc. could set up a booth at, we ended up touching on what to wear. An executive level colleague shared, “the more femininely dressed the better, unfortunately. It’s true.”

At first I wasn’t very surprised. Yet, when I reflected on what I wore to the #SimplySocial2014 event the week before, I had worn a black suit. Nothing is more professional to me, than a woman wearing a suit. That perspective was now in question.

It’s not to say that I think suits are not a good choice, but instead, it’s about how you are treated by others at the event or in the workplace. During the event, amongst recruiting professionals, I didn’t seem to make any waves. That being said, it could have been because I was on Guest List patrol and overseeing the arrival of guests.

I don’t disagree with her statement, and I’m no hard hitting feminist either. When it comes to branding yourself in a professional way, and the clothes you choose to do this, I’m not sure which argument wins.

Pencil skirts have always been a professional staple in any woman’s wardrobe. I have a few hanging in my closet as we speak. However, I do think it is important to highlight your gender at professional events because (sadly) it does seem to make a difference in how you’re perceived.

Moving forward, I’m definitely not going to discard what my colleague said. I will also continue to believe that a classic suit just does the trick sometimes. Especially, with an added pop of colour underneath.

Maybe, just maybe, it all comes down to the shoes?

 

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Book Club for Two // Conscious Reasonings

After finally scheduling a Skype date to chat, we have completed our first instalment of conscious reasonings – a fancy phrase for the chat we had - on Moby Dick.

I’m shocked that we’re getting through it, but it sure isn’t at a fast rate. I keep falling in and out of love with Ishmael, as does Meagan it seems, since he does like to ramble at times. Don’t get me wrong, we are intrigued by his narration, yet there are moments of severe skimming.

Neither of us know much about the background of this novel besides what is written on the back flap. However, the novels incorporation of the metaphysical reminds me of The Raw Shark Texts by Steven Hall and for Meagan, Life of Pie. Having read up until page 130, which isn’t much for a roughly 600 page novel, I can’t say whether or not the Captain of the Pequod is a human or spirit. The strange man who tried to stop Ishmael and Queequeg prior to getting on the ship, is also questionable as he seems to know too much and is slightly foreshadowing. Or sharing a premonition?

Having studied english literature the last six years, I usually know some historical context in relation to the century the book was written, or biographical backing on the author. With that said, it’s easy for me to start layering theories onto a novel. Thank goodness Meagan was willing to listen – haha!

It seemed relevant to me to mention that the novel had elements of the gothic (the threat of a monster) that are intermingled with the savage beast, often found in African literature. Not to mention that Moby Dick is often referred to as an allegory, but for what? We aren’t far enough yet to know. The layers of meaning, and context is a lot to digest. Though, that is what makes this novel so exciting.

It seems out of character for Ishmael to have befriended Queequeg. Especially since he portrayed him as a savage and beastly other. As Meagan pointed out, he is a monster that has a soul. Though he isn’t a Christian like that of Ishmael, our protagonist accepts him for who he is (along with his Idol) while standing up for him against the rest of societies prejudices.

The last part that stood out in our minds was Ishmael’s depiction of what makes Whaling an honourable profession. Like that of a butcher, who isn’t respected on account of their slaughtering of animals, Whalers are undervalued. Apparently, the seamen oil is good for your hair? On a serious note, it was an interesting depiction of the whaling industry and its importance at that time.

Our goal by the end of the novel? At least for me anyway, is to be able to properly pronounce “Queequeg.” Right now it isn’t looking to promising as we both say it differently.

To read more about how this Book Club For Two got its wings, click on: “Book Club for Two // Test Novel.”

 

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Book Club for Two // Test-Novel

Let’s put Meagan and I to the test, shall we

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Both avid book readers, and novel deep divers, Meagan and I always chat about what we’re reading. Since she permanently lives in Ottawa, and I – in Toronto, we decided to put our love of reading (paired with how often we can keep in touch) to the truest test: a Book Club made for two.

I’ve wanted to join a book club since I finished my Masters at Carleton University in English Literature. However, I found it very hard to commit to anything, especially a group and discussion timelines. My friend Cammie and Rick really helped me out – having been part of a Friday night Book Club for a while themselves – they invited me to its Facebook group to join.

Well, I folded under the pressure. It was just too soon for me, and I wanted to do my own thing when it came to literature at that point. Reading the likes of, A Glittering Chaos by Lisa de Nikolits and Only Revolutions by Mark Z. Danielewski (to be blogged about soon).

Over a Skype date with Meagan we created a list of books that we have ALWAYS had a strong desire to read, but lacked the drive to do it.

The list looks a little something like this: 

Moby Dick by Herman Melville

Catcher and the Rye by J.D. Salinger

The Polished Hoe by Austin Clarke

What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty 

Great Expectations by Charles Dickens

Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens

IMG_5512A lot of heavy hitters, I know. Of course, we’ve decided to begin with Moby Dick. Little did I know that this American classic was over 300 pages long. My mother went to the Thornhill Library to retrieve my newest reading-kicker and to my surprise it was HUGE.

Lugging this thing on the subway hasn’t been an easy task. This novel is also a test – first on how capable Meagan and I are at being focused enough to get through the first novel, and second how devoted to the list we are.

Having intended to start this book the first week of February, the last I heard, Meagan was on page 5.

To find out more about Meagan and I’s adventures, be sure to read: “Edge Walk CN Tower // Dee’s Perspective,” and “Edge Walk CN Tower // Meagan’s Perspective.”

I’ll definitely keep you posted, but wish us luck! We’re going to need it.

 

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